Creating art with someone you love may be one of the sweetest things I’ve ever heard of; but what kind of effect does this have on your relationship? Being an actor can have a strain on your own mental health, if you become too deep into your character. So, if by yourself creating art can hurt, does this also happen while in a relationship?
John Krasinski and Emily Blunt is one couple that shows an example of two artists who are married. While both have done films and projects without each other, they just released a film A Quiet Place which starred both Krasinski and Blunt. In an interview with Independent, Krasinski said
“It [working together] without a doubt made our marriage stronger.”
Many, including they themselves, were surprised by that. Typically, it seems that couples who create films together get a divorced. The Sundance Film, Loveling writers experienced just that; during pre-production, the couple divorced. While both were writing the film, the husband was also directing and the wife was the lead actress. Following their divorce, the writing sessions were separate although both came together once a week to collaborate. While the situation was rough and times were uncomfortable, the divorce helped to grow the characters. The pain and the loss of a loved one helped the story to develop. As the film tells the tale of a mother trying to keep her family together; the experiences of loss first hand, helped the actress to grow her character and grow the plot as she wrote. While creating art together can separate people, it can also grow the story. In the case of the Loveling writers, their relationship failed but helped the story to develop into something deeper, something that got them into Sundance. However, in the case of Krasinski and Blunt’s relationship, they grew as they worked together. It helped the relationship of the family to grow closer as well, as the plot was structured so that there was a strong need for an intimacy in the family.
Relationships can be affected by art; however, art can also be affected by relationships. Many popular culture songs are based off of someone’s relationship. It’s very hard to find a Taylor Swift song not about a relationship. Honestly, some of the most popular songs are based off of relationships. With this in mind, is there any issue with relationships affecting music and media so much? Many would say “no”, many would say “yes”. There isn’t a correct answer to this, in my opinion. Now, having your ex sing about you for millions to hear probably isn’t an ideal situation; being cautious with who you are with is very important. Privacy is important, as we can see when we look to the Bible. Proverbs 13:3 says,
“ Whoever guards his mouth preserves his life; he who opens wide his lips comes to ruin.”
This can seem harsh, but basically the verse is saying that keeping things private can be better overall and not bring ruin to a relationship. Keeping things at home and not using words to harm people, whether it be through music or not, should not be done. However, using your emotions to create art that can show others what it is like or to create a more realistic story, is not wrong. However, “Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouth…” (Ephesians 4:29a) While creating art can be hard within a relationship, the words that are used are what dictate the manner in which the art affects the relationship. Whether the work itself changes a relationship, or the actions done while creating it does, the way you treat a person is what matters overall.